Week 30: Show Off!

Dear Baby,

Well, even though I find myself in week 30 of pregnancy, and didn’t write you a letter during week 29, I don’t feel like I’ve “missed out.”  I just don’t have a letter to prove it.  I’ve had a little bit of writer’s block and feel like I don’t have anything astounding, interesting or knowledgeable to share with you.  Still, I’ve been fully involved in things happening around me.  In a busy holiday spirit I’ve baked cookies, designed and sent Christmas cards, shopped for presents, wrapped gifts, and enjoyed time with friends.

As I write this note to you Dad is in the basement working on organizing our belongings.  It’s a task he’s been diligently tending to for a good week now.  Once we have enough space cleared in the basement I’ll begin the project of refinishing furniture for your nursery.  I’m looking forward to it! 

This past weekend our final appliance was delivered! We now have a refrigerator!!!  Very exciting!  I also took some time this weekend to install our new blinds.  Dad and I were sharing a conversation the other night about how we feel blessed the way everything worked out.  The fact that our house is slowly being pieced together gives us time to fully appreciate every new detail.

Mom had a prenatal check-up appointment today.  Our midwife didn’t need to ask if I was feeling you move because she could see you.  You were being a little show-off as she checked your heart rate and measured Mom’s belly.  As you squirmed your heart rate fluctuated between fast and slow.  Guess you’re getting your exercise in!  Seems like your new favorite position is to push your tiny tush into the right side of Mom’s ribs and wiggle your toes on the left side of my belly.  You continue to grow in size and Mom's belly is proof of this.  You weigh nearly 3 pounds now and are roughly 15.7 inches long.  Incredible!  

This week you get to tagalong on a special trip!  We’re headed to New Orleans, Louisiana.  Mom is in wedding for her good girlfriend Jane.  Dad, Grandma Liz, and Uncle Mike are coming, too!

Week 30

Week 27 & 28: Don't Miss Out

Dear Baby,

Daily responsibilities, appointments and projects for you, beginning birth class, Thanksgiving, and our recent move have all played a part in keeping Mom and Dad on our toes! Add all this to the early stages of the hustle and bustle of the holiday season – wowzers! We've had full schedules! That's why in this week's update you're getting two weeks wrapped into one. Is this because I haven't found the time to write you, or because I haven't made the time to write you? I haven't decided which “excuse” seems to fit better. Either way, this dilemma gets me thinking. Is there really any valid excuse for missing important things? Because you are indeed important!

I received an email today about this truth. In short, it wrapped up like this:

“As we go throughout our busy days this holiday season, we are continually met with opportunities to impact others with the words we speak. The man in front of us in line at the grocery store, the woman at the checkout counter, the waiter in the restaurant, the fellow passenger on the airplane, or the neighbor across the street might be your special assignment for the day.”

This was a wonderful reminder. It makes me recall one of my favorite quotes: “Be happy for this moment; this moment is your life!” You have already been given the gift of life. Right now you are alive and healthy in Mom's belly. As you grow you'll find that your own life on earth will be filled with special assignments each day. Opportunities to learn and grow. Opportunities to meet, interact and impact others. Please use these opportunities as they present themselves. Life only happens once. I will try to remember this as I enter this year's holiday season – but more importantly as my life of becoming a parent approaches. Right now I want to treasure the changing times that include just me and Dad. I want to enjoy the hectic times, knowing it won't always be this crazy, and sometimes it could be even more crazy! I want to enjoy the last few months that I have the opportunity to carry you inside me. And, when I become a parent, I want to be present for, cherish, watch, support and cheer you on during the important events of your life.

Despite both myself and Dad's desire to finish our move as quickly as possible, we've had to succumb to this understanding that life only happens once. As we find ourselves unpacking and organizing into the late hours of the night we realize we need to take time to stop and enjoy. On Thanksgiving we took a break to enjoy our first holiday meal in our new house. We ordered turkey, mashed potatoes, stuffing, and green bean casserole from the grocery store deli and ate it off of paper plates with plastic utinsils. (A fun first house memory to have!) We welcomed our first house guests – Grandma Liz, Aunt Katie and Uncle Mike. They were a huge help in moving, unpacking, and organizing. There was enough work in our new home during their visit that we could have kept them busy 24-7. Instead, we paused to celebrate a belated birthday dinner. The next day, even though boxes were still piled high throughout the main floor, garage, and basement, we also paused to enjoy our new appliances! We threw a pizza party. Grandma Laurie and Grandpa Chuck joined the celebration.

It's taken a few days, but thanks to much help from family and a few close friends we are officially moved into our new home. And we have some fun memories from the process. I've heard that as we grow older, life continues to happen faster. My hope would be to welcome you into a home that appreciates slowing down at times so that we are able to see the world and activity that's happening right in front of us.

Remember that you will always be important to me, and that important things are worth taking the time to pause and enjoy!

P.S. I almost forgot! We hit a pretty neat pregnancy milestone this week. You have definitely ramped up your wiggles and squirms. Early one morning Dad visibly saw you move. So cool!

Week 28

The very beginnings of your nursery

New appliances for new home!

Our temporary refrigerator (Good thing it's getting chilly!) 

Starting to test paint colors

Our new kitchen table!

Week 26: Home Sweet (Hectic) Home!

Dear Baby,

Did you feel the sugar rush? We had an appointment this week and Mom had to drink a high-glucose, orange-flavored beverage. It wasn't as bad as anticipated. You were quite squirmy for the rest of the day after it. If your summersaults weren't caused by the sugar high, maybe you enjoyed Dad's yummy cooking? Or maybe you felt squished because of my stretching during yoga class?

It's been quite an eventful last few weeks for Dad and Mom. Our search for a new house has continued. In the past year or more our hunt has brought us quite the variety of options. We've visited many different locations and neighborhoods in the Coulee Region, gained new perspectives and insights about what we want in a home, and battled mixed emotions to include both highs and lows throughout our search. We never had a style of home or neighborhood in mind. During our hunt we were intentional about keeping a mental list of features that would be nice to have, but never let this list limit our options. If any property had the slightest potential we'd schedule an appointment to visit. We've kept faith knowing that God is the perfect realtor and when the right house came along we'd realize it! Easier said than done sometimes. Prayers helped us stay patient.

About a month ago Dad stumbled upon a new real estate listing. We followed our usual M.O. This is a process that included a drive by to assess curb appeal. Looks good. Contacting the selling party asking if we could see the property. Yes, we could. Dad doing his diligent research and digging deep for important information. Hmmm, checks out okay. Arriving to the showing with as little pre-conceived opinion as possible. Wow, we liked it! We really, really liked it!

Baby D, we have found your perfect first home. And, like He always does, our Perfect Realtor came through!

This past month has been a whirlwind of paperwork, phone calls and appointments — all welcomed chaos on the journey to becoming homeowners again! We cannot wait to get into the new space and create a home!

As we walk through the big, empty rooms we imagine all the memories that will be made within our new walls. We've already picked what room will be yours. Last week we visited the house late at night. I walked upstairs to your room, stood in the dark space and thought about all the late nights and early mornings I'll spend there. It is fun to imagine all the possibilities for how we could decorate your nursery. But, I know the only thing that will truly make it complete is you. I can't wait to cuddle you and hold you in that room.

We love the layout of our home. It doesn't have the yard that Dad (and partly now me) would love, but it's in a neighborhood that has a wonderful vibe. It has a backyard for you to play in. It comes with an unfinished basement where Dad can dabble in projects. I think he's looking forward to that. Perhaps we'll designate an area in the basement for you to leave toys strewn about, crash ridable toys into unfinished walls, and wreck havoc in any way you choose. My favorite part of the whole process has been shopping for appliances. Picking paint colors will also be fun, although slightly overwhelming.
The final days of November are sure to be hectic as we re-pack our belongings and situate ourselves into a new space. We'll settle just in time for the holidays to get crazy. We'll take one last breather as a family of two in mid January before you arrive and our lives change forever!
Our nurse says you're growing perfectly and your heart beat sounds healthy. It's reassuring to know this. It's also reassuring and thrilling to know that when you do arrive we will get to welcome you to our NEW home!

Week 26
(Thanks to some reminders from friends I remembered to take a photo this week!)

Our NEW house!

Inside our new house

Week 25: No Pressure, But I Know Some Incredible Kids...

Dear Baby,

As your arrival becomes more of a reality, I am slowly stepping away from various roles and activities.  The process of doing this in preparation for you is thrilling.  But, I can’t lie, there are moments where thoughts of letting go are tough.  I am reminded of incredible blessings that make my transition to motherhood somewhat bittersweet.

La Crosse, the city where you will grow up, is an amazing place!  Since moving here six years ago I’ve come to love the history, traditions, scenery, and connections that accompany smaller town living.  La Crosse is where I found my footing as a young adult.  I started my career here, explored my boundaries, made mistakes, met spectacular friends, learned big lessons, reconnected with my faith, and celebrated many successes.  It’s where I met and married Dad, the love of my life!  This place is awesome and I hope you come to appreciate all it has to offer!

What I love most about La Crosse is the community of people.  People and relationships, I’ve found, offer purpose and meaning in life.  One place where I’ve met the most extraordinary people of La Crosse is at English Lutheran Church.  I know and believe that people matter to God.  If it were not for the people present through my own faith journey and life experiences, my self-worth and leadership capabilities would be less than where they stand now.  It has been people who’ve befriended me, persuaded me to reach new limits, and supported me time and time again.  This is true of my church family from St. Mark’s where I grew up and, now, my church family of English Lutheran.

For the past three years I’ve had the honor of working as the high school youth coordinator at English Lutheran.  Through this position I’ve met some amazing youth. I’ve laughed, cried, traveled on mission trips, and served with these kids.  I’ve opened up to them, and in turn, they’ve opened up to me.  What will remain most memorable is that I’ve prayed with them and for them. Baby, no pressure here, but before you were born I already knew some pretty remarkable kids.  And these kids have set the bar pretty high!   I know you’ll keep up.

In my role of mentoring high school youth, I’ve also been mentored.  Lessons and examples from the parents of these youth, guidance from pastors, and even the kids themselves have taught me much.  I realize every situation has specially prepared me to become a mom – your mom.  And, as I reflect on my experiences, I am so very thankful for such an inspiring path to help begin the teachings of parenthood.

As I transition to leave behind my role as high school youth coordinator, I want every youth who has ever passed through English Lutheran’s doors to know they are loved by me, by their church family, and by God.  My joy would be for the youth of English Lutheran to one day reflect on where their spirituality took root, knowing they were befriended by myself and others who pushed them to new limits in the church and community, and supported them time and time again.  It would also be my joy for you, baby, to one day be a part of this awesome high school youth program.  You have lots to look forward to!  I can’t wait to be your mom, and I can’t wait for you to meet some of these awesome kids!  Know that you are already a special child of God, dear little one.

How do you sum up an experience like this in photos...?  You can't.  But, in an attempt to share just how incredible these kids are, here are a few highlights from over the years!

 

 

Week 24: Movin' and Groovin'

Dear Baby,

Time is flying by!  This week allowed few moments to sit and be.  I found myself running from one activity to the next frequently.  The moments I did take time to relax became special.  That’s because when I stop moving it seems you start moving.  You’ve been most active in Mom’s belly before bedtime and early in the morning.  Sometimes its rhythmic kicks, other times is what I’d call slithers.  I am not yet accustomed to feeling you and sometimes I’ll react with a jolt.  Nothing has caused me discomfort or pain – I’m told that’s coming.  I’ve also been told your movements inside me are something I’ll miss once you arrive.  This advice has prompted me to enjoy our time together.

Dad and I are also making a point to spend time together.  We know that once you’re here time for just the two of us will be limited – all for good reasons!  We’ve made a point to schedule mini dates and have cherished each other’s company and conversation.  While on a date this week, Dad and I celebrated “National Nacho Day!”  We love our nachos!  We make our own using different ingredients, but also taste test different variations from restaurants.  After learning it was “National Nacho Day” Mom and Dad decided we should celebrate our happy hour date by ordering nachos.  You were very squirmy that night.  You must have enjoyed the nachos just as much as us!  You’ll fit in well in this family, baby!

Happy National Nacho Day!

Week 23: Trick or Treat

Dear Baby, 

I’ve noticed you are most active after I drink orange juice and then go sit somewhere quiet for a bit.  Makes me realize just how much sugar is packed into fruit juice.  Consider it your Halloween treat from your mummy!

An exciting milestone is that Dad felt you move for the first time.  It was very faint, but he could tell it was you.  What an incredible thing to be able to share with him!

I have to admit that I’ve been taunting you a little bit this week.  Supposedly your cochlea, or inner ear organ that’s responsible for detecting movement and balance, is now fully developed.  This means you can hear and have a slight sense of what is upright and upside-down.  I imagine this development is partly to blame for your increased activity.  No one likes to be stuck upside down for too long!  The cochlea development also means you can hear sounds.  And even though your eyelids are fused shut, I read that you can detect light.  This is where my taunting has come in.   I’ve been playing music via my iPhone and, along with a flashlight, holding both against my belly.  Consider this your Halloween trick from me!  I probably look ridiculous, but I’m anxious to feel your presence again like I did last week!

Dad and I have picked names we like for you, but we’re not telling! We think this should be a surprise along with your gender.  For now, we still refer to you as baby.

We love you, baby!  Since I forgot to take a belly photo this week, here's a few photos of our family getting into the Halloween spirit!

Cousin Calvin dressed as a bat and helping hand out candy

Grandpa Steve and Grandma Liz dressed as condemints for St. Mark's "Trunk or Treat" event

Aunt Katie on her 26th birthday dressed as jelly, along with her car disguised as a toaster!

Week 22: Wiggles and Water Parks

Dear Baby,

I felt you for the first time this week!  While lying awake in bed early one morning I felt a tickle in my belly that came with a little more oomph than what I’m accustomed to.  The tickles kept coming on a pretty consistent basis.  I reached to touch my tummy where I felt you moving.  When I did so I pressed against something quite hard; much more firm than what I’d felt any other time when I touched my stomach.  You pushed back and then squirmed past my hand.  I’m not sure what part of your body bushed past my fingers, but it sure felt cool! The information I read says you’re about 11 inches long and weigh just about one pound. For the small amount my belly has grown, it’s very reassuring to know that you have room to wiggle in my womb.

This weekend we traveled to the Wisconsin Dells with Dad’s side of the family.  We stayed at the Great Wolf Lodge.  Family threw us a fabulous baby shower!  We played fun party games, shared good conversation, ate yummy food, and went swimming!  Our family gifted us with many items that will come is very handy once you arrive!  You also got some darn cute clothes.  Mom and Dad definitely felt loved!

You haven’t moved a whole lot since the one encounter this week, but nurses say that’s common right now because you still have room to move quite a bit without affecting Mom. Enjoy your stretching and kicking now – your world is only going to get more cramped as you continue to grow.  I’m looking forward to feeling, and even seeing you move as my pregnancy continues.

Week 22

Playing in the hallway with your cousin Ryan

Adorable shower decorations made by Aunt Stacey

Playing Jenga at Earl's in downtown La Crosse

Week 21: Family of Three

Dear Baby,

We’re going to be a family!  This week has brought some emotional ups and downs that make this fact more and more of a reality to Mom and Dad.


Families come in all kinds and sizes.  Most commonly, family is a group of people connected by blood lines.  Once you arrive we’ll be a family of three; a mom, a dad and a baby.   It’s important to know that there is no one correct type of family structure.  What all “families” have in common is that they are a group who practices unconditional love towards each other.  Unconditional love means that families care about and act with compassion for the well-being of others through good times and bad.  Sometimes this love is shown through kind words and empathy.  Other times unconditional love is visible through the sharing of harsh truths.  Families hug, kiss, high-five, share caring conversations and encouraging words.  No matter what, families support all members.
Mom and Dad have had some decent practice at being a family of two.  We’ve seen each other through many really good times and some more difficult times.  Still, we've got lots more to experience.  For Mom, this week leaned more towards the difficult end.  I didn’t always feel myself and lacked motivation in some areas.  Call it pregnancy hormones, a week of unexpected outcomes, or both.  Your dad was my #1 supporter who reminded me of my talents.  Experiencing his encouraging words reminds me of how great of a dad he is going to be and how important it is to have family members who can offer encouragement, especially when you can’t seem to find it on your own.  Though most of what you throw at us will be our first pass in parenting, we both want you to know you can always rely on your mom and dad for the truth, a listening ear, support, compassion, encouragement, and love!  Your grandparents, aunts, and uncles will be great for this, too!
Speaking of family we’re expecting some visitors this weekend.  Grandma Liz, Aunt Katie & Lizzie, Kris and Erica are coming to visit La Crosse this weekend.  We’re having ladies day out.  (Not to worry if you’re a boy, we’re not getting too girly with activities)  Weather permitting we’re planning a trip to the apple orchard and a short hike to see the fall colors.  I’m really excited to see our family!  Next weekend we’ll spend time with Dad’s side of the family.  We’re looking forward to visiting them, too!
An exciting package was delivered to our house this week – your stroller!  I think at first it made Dad a little apprehensive, but once I had all the parts assembled he warmed up to the idea.  We’ve both taken turns pushing it through our cramped kitchen pretending to be on a walk.  It’s neat to imagine you sitting inside.  Sometimes I’ll even pretend to wave to the "neighbors."  Dad just laughs at me.  (I mean with me)  Being goofy is something else that families do really well together; especially our family!  It’s fun to imagine all the giggles and adventures we’ll share as a family with your stroller.
I hope you’re ready to smile tonight – we have family photos for the new church directory.  Even though we can’t see your cute face, know you were a part of our first family portrait!

Week 21
Just before attending yoga class :)

Your brand new car seat and stroller

The weekend visitors stopped to say hi to Dave at work!

Week 20: The Halfway Point

Dear Baby,
We’re about half way to meeting you!  I say about because it’s a give or take estimate based on when you decide to make your debut.  It’s ironic that as we celebrate your halfway milestone, Mom and Dad are celebrating a complete year of something else – our marriage!  Happy Anniversary to us!

We celebrated our one-year of marriage in a special way.  We attended the wedding of our good friends Chet and Alison.  How meaningful to watch two of our friends so in love make the same commitment we did one year ago.  It wasn’t only their ceremony that refreshed Mom and Dad’s memory, but also the falling leaves.  We can both remember on the year of our wedding watching the leaves on the trees change colors and fall to the ground.   We both hoped that just enough leaves would hang around for us to get some decent outdoor photos.  Well, it worked!  Now, in addition to the fond memories of raking and jumping into leaves when young, the look and feel of fall reminds us of being surrounded by family and friends on our wedding day!  I can remember walking to meet Dad on the day of our wedding with the smell of damp leaves and misty air.  He looked so happy, proud and handsome that day!  Seeing him look dapper as a groomsmen one year later was yet another reminder of our special day.

We also celebrated our anniversary with two special weekend dates.  On Saturday morning we walked to Caribou Coffee to enjoy a hot beverage, enjoy conversation and read the newspaper.  To our surprise, we were able to complete the daily crossword puzzle!  Not our intention, but definitely an empowering feat and one that made us feel intelligent!  On Sunday we woke up and made a homemade breakfast. Dad cooked special order omelets and Mom baked monkey bread!  Yum!  Dad spent the remainder of our anniversary day at work.  I feel lucky I got to celebrate with him!

According to our weekly calendar you weigh about three-quarters of a pound now.  When I read this information to Dad he recognized that to be the same weight as three quarter-pound cheeseburgers!

Week 20

Caribou Coffee date & completed crossword puzzle

Remembering Our Wedding - 10/13/12

Celebrating Chet & Alison's Wedding

Week 19: Picture Perfect!

Dear Baby,
We can see you!  We had our first ultrasound appointment and were able to see amazing pictures of your little body!  Our nurse tells us that you’re about 6-7 inches long and weigh less than one  pound. If we could hold you right now you’d only fill the palm of our hand. You’re so tiny; yet you possess has all the intricacies of the human body.  We saw your heart, stomach, bladder and brain.  We saw you moving your arms and legs.  We even saw your mouth move as you drank the fluid surrounding you within your small, compact world. All your measurements were normal which reassures Mom and Dad that you’re staying healthy!

We know it’s way too early to predict your personality, but you were being stubborn.  To get good measurement photos Mom had to roll from her laying on her back to her side.  Then, back to her back and the other side.  We did this a few times.  At one point we positioned the bed so Mom’s feet were higher than her head.  This caused you to move, but then you hid your face.  Our appointment was early in the morning.  Were you were still waking up or just a little camera shy?

This is the appointment we could have determined your gender, but we didn’t want to find out.  At one point, Dad asked the ultrasound technician if she knew your gender.  She did.  Still, we didn’t want to know.  We’re enjoying the guesses that family and friends are making.  Mom and Dad don’t really have a feeling one way or another.  Boy or girl we love you just the same!

Mom enrolled in a prenatal yoga course.  Classes began this week.  Such a good feeling to get back into a yoga studio!  I’ve missed my hot yoga practice since learning I was pregnant.  I’m really looking forward to stretching my body and connecting with other moms-to-be!

Baby's foot

Baby's 4-chamber heart 

Baby's spine

Baby's profile (laying on back looking up)